ARE DEFEATS NECESSARY?

May had been quite the draining month. It trickled slightly into June. I’m glad I’m getting back my momentum. I tend to bite more than I can chew and I end up stretching myself too thin and being overly overwhelmed. I’m also a perfectionist on all levels. I’m slowly learning and embracing that what’s done is better than perfect. I don’t give myself room to make mistakes and when I do, I really end up beating myself over it for a while. Hence my question, are defeats necessary?

If you read my blog post here, you’ll kinda figure out on the way that this is a continuation of the blog and what a timely time! I’ve been bogging my head around the question “are defeats necessary?” for a while now. Necessary or not, defeats are inevitable. They happen. We who fight for our dream suffer more when it doesn’t work out, because we cannot fall back on the old excuse, “Oh, well, I didn’t really want it anyway.”

In the real sense, we do want it and know that we have staked everything on it and the path of the personal calling is no easier than any other path, except that our whole heart is in this journey. Then we warriors of light must be prepared to have patience in difficult times and to know that the universe is conspiring in our favor, even though we may not understand how.

When we begin fighting for our dreams, we have no experience and we make many mistakes along the way. The secret of life though, is to fall seven times and get back 8 times harder.

So, why is it important to live our personal calling if we’re only going to suffer more than other people? Because once we have overcome the defeats-and we always do- we are filled with a greater sense of euphoria and confidence.

In the silence of our hearts, we know we are proving ourself worthy of a miracle of life. Each day, each hour, is part of the good fight. We start to live with enthusiasm and pleasure. Intense, unexpected suffering passes more quickly than suffering that is more bearable; the latter goes on for years and, without our noticing, eats away at our soul, until one day, we are no longer able to free ourselves from the bitterness and it stays with us for the rest of our lives.

Having disinterred our dream, having used the power of love to nurture it and spent many years living with the scars, we suddenly notice that what we always wanted is there, waiting for us, perhaps the very next day. Then comes the fourth obstacle, the fear of realizing the dream for which we have been fighting for all our lives.

Oscar Wilde once said “Each man kills the thing he loves.” The mere possibility of getting what we want fills the soul of the ordinary person with guilt. We look around at all those who have failed to get what they want and feel that we do not deserve to get what we want either. We forget about all the obstacles we overcame, all the suffering we endured, all the things we had to give up in order to get this far. I have personally known a lot of people who, when their personal calling was within their capacity, they went ahead to commit a series of stupid mistakes and never reached their goal when it was only a step away.

This is the most dangerous of the obstacles because it has a kind of saintly aura about it: renouncing joy and conquest. But if you believe you are worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the soul of the world, and you understand where you are here.

NB: Borrowed from #TheAlchemist by Paulo Coelho, I dare say that this book has changed my perspective on so many things. It has given me a deeper understanding on what exactly personal calling entails and the fact that, we must always do our best wherever we are at. I highly recommend that you get a copy & indulge.

Thanks for reading. Love&Light. Always!

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