Are you truly worthy of love?

I recently had a conversation with some of my friends and asked them what makes them feel the most pursued by a man? The overwhelming response was: when they have clear intentions, ask questions, are intentional with planning, follow through with actions, and make an effort. I gathered that women want to feel seen and valued by a man. So why are we settling for anything less? Why are we falling for minimal effort and interactions with men who do not possess these qualities? Why are we ‘confused’ about a man’s pursuit when we should be enlightened by their lack of pursuit and realize they aren’t into us?